I was talking with my daughter recently, and she shared something that really stuck with me. One of her close friends is worried about her dad, who, coincidentally, is around the same age as I am. She said her friend opened up about how her father’s been struggling lately. He told her that he just doesn’t feel like he has the will to keep going. That he’s lost all sense of motivation. And that the only thing that brings him any sort of comfort anymore is drinking.
It was heartbreaking to hear, my Ex husband experienced something similar. It’s a stark reminder of how quiet these battles can be how men can carry so much pain beneath the surface while still going through the motions of everyday life. Especially men at a certain age, who may not feel like they have space to talk about their struggles, or who were never taught how to talk about them in the first place.
What really hit me was that this wasn’t just about one man it’s something a lot of men are silently facing. That sense of burnout, loneliness, or disconnection that creeps in midlife and slowly takes over. And sometimes, the only thing they feel they can rely on is a coping mechanism like alcohol, even though deep down, they know it’s not the answer.
The Wasted Time Wake-Up Call Turning 50 is a mental milestone. It’s when men start hearing that little voice: “Time is running out.” If they’ve been coasting in a “just okay” marriage, relationship that urgency to do something different starts to feel very real.
The Baggage Is Too Heavy Years of unspoken tension, old arguments, emotional distance it adds up. And for some men, starting fresh feels easier than sorting through all that pain.
Or it can even be craving emotional depth. Many men were never taught how to open up emotionally. After years of bottling it up, it all starts to surface. They want connection, they want to be seen, they want to be understood.
But here’s the thing…
You don’t have to leave everything behind to rediscover yourself.
Want to shake things up? Here’s what you can try:
Start with YOU. What excites you? What do you miss doing? Pick one thing and go after it. It’s never too late.
Protect your individuality. You’re more than your job or family role. Take space to grow. You’re allowed.
Stop chasing fantasies. Most “what ifs” are highlight reels in your head. Focus on the now—what’s real, what’s possible, what still has life in it.
And the most important thing,
Foster Compassion—Especially for yourself
Many men are hard on themselves. Spirituality can soften that. It can help them see their struggles as part of the human experience, not a personal failure. This shift allows for greater self-acceptance, which is often the turning point in any midlife journey.
The Sacred Shift | Intuitive Guidance With Suzette Lindo 