Here’s the truth nobody talks about:
A “dating-marriage” and a “courtship-marriage” are NOT the same.
A dating-marriage is what happens when two people jump from the dating phase straight into marriage without really taking time to understand how they communicate, solve problems, or handle pressure together.
This type of marriage often struggles because the foundation is thin.
It’s built on chemistry, excitement, or convenience not preparedness.
And one of the biggest problems dating-marriages run into?
A lack of communication.
In a dating-marriage:
People assume the other person already knows what they want. Expectations were never discussed, so now everything feels like a surprise. Conflict becomes personal instead of constructive. One partner shuts down while the other becomes frustrated. Emotional needs were never explored, so they constantly collide.
Why?
Because dating never required real communication. It only required connection.
But courtship is different.
A courtship-marriage has depth.
It’s built on months (or even years) of intentional communication, emotional honesty, and shared vision.
In a courtship-marriage:
You already know how each other communicates. You’ve already practiced resolving conflict. You’ve talked about finances, roles, expectations, kids, boundaries, and future goals. You enter marriage with clarity instead of confusion.
Courtship forces you to build the communication skills your marriage will rely on.
The Sacred Shift | Intuitive Guidance With Suzette Lindo 