Tag: dating
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Why emotional closeness is cheating.
We talk a lot about physical cheating. It’s obvious. It’s concrete. It’s easy to point at and say, “That crossed a line.” But what about emotional connections? I’ve been thinking about this after coming across a popular public figure who asked a heavy question: What would you do if you found out your husband was…
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At the End of the Road, What’s Left Is Choice
There’s a kind of knowing that only comes after you’ve stood on the edge a few times. Not metaphorically. Not dramatically. But in those quiet, disorienting moments where life and death feel less like opposites and more like roommates. “After shifting back and forth between life and death, at the end of the road, what’s…
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Marriage Is a Practice, Not a Promise
Speaking from firsthand experience, I went into marriage believing, like most people do, that love alone would be enough to make it last. You don’t walk down the aisle planning for divorce. You expect the commitment to carry itself simply because vows were exchanged. But marriage doesn’t survive on intention alone; it survives on effort.…
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The Sexually Disciplined Man: Why Intimacy Is Responsibility, Not Gratification
In a world that treats sex as casual, transactional, or purely pleasurable, a sexually disciplined man is rare. And yet, his presence is transformative. After 14 years of celibacy, I’ve realized something profound: intimacy isn’t just physical, it’s energetic, emotional, and deeply shaping. It can open gifts, shift awareness, and alter the very rhythm of…
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The Soulmate Myth No One Talks About
I recently wrote about how many women who have elevated themselves, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and even professionally, often find it difficult to meet men at the same level. Not because there’s something “wrong” with them, but because growth changes what feels aligned. When you outgrow certain dynamics, you also outgrow certain connections. After coming across…
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Why Some Black Men Struggle with Black Women Marrying Outside Their Race
With the second Williams sister getting married and, like her sister, choosing a partner outside her race, some black male influencers on social media are once again criticizing her choice. But the truth is this: a daughter’s first model of a man is her father. That early example often shapes what she recognizes, values, and…
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Women Who Choose Happiness Don’t Settle for Pain
I wrote this in response to a post by a woman I admire and relate to. I remembered her wedding and commended her for being open to marrying again, appreciating her readiness to welcome love while staying true to herself and not sacrificing her well-being. Women who are truly happy do not excuse pain. They…
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Why the First Deep Love Never Really Leaves a Man.
A post online claims that men fall in love only once and that every relationship afterward is a substitute for that original bond. When I saw this on my Instagram feed, curiosity led me into the comments. Some women said they didn’t care, as long as a man provides. Others admitted they’ve never truly been…