Tag: marriage
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Marriage Is a Practice, Not a Promise
Speaking from firsthand experience, I went into marriage believing, like most people do, that love alone would be enough to make it last. You don’t walk down the aisle planning for divorce. You expect the commitment to carry itself simply because vows were exchanged. But marriage doesn’t survive on intention alone; it survives on effort.…
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The Soulmate Myth No One Talks About
I recently wrote about how many women who have elevated themselves, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and even professionally, often find it difficult to meet men at the same level. Not because there’s something “wrong” with them, but because growth changes what feels aligned. When you outgrow certain dynamics, you also outgrow certain connections. After coming across…
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Why Some Black Men Struggle with Black Women Marrying Outside Their Race
With the second Williams sister getting married and, like her sister, choosing a partner outside her race, some black male influencers on social media are once again criticizing her choice. But the truth is this: a daughter’s first model of a man is her father. That early example often shapes what she recognizes, values, and…
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Women Who Choose Happiness Don’t Settle for Pain
I wrote this in response to a post by a woman I admire and relate to. I remembered her wedding and commended her for being open to marrying again, appreciating her readiness to welcome love while staying true to herself and not sacrificing her well-being. Women who are truly happy do not excuse pain. They…
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Why the First Deep Love Never Really Leaves a Man.
A post online claims that men fall in love only once and that every relationship afterward is a substitute for that original bond. When I saw this on my Instagram feed, curiosity led me into the comments. Some women said they didn’t care, as long as a man provides. Others admitted they’ve never truly been…
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How Society Turns Women Against Women.
For generations, society has quietly and sometimes openly conditioned women to view one another as rivals instead of allies. It’s a divide-and-conquer strategy woven into our culture so deeply that many women don’t even realize they’ve been trained to compete for visibility, validation, and value. We grew up surrounded by messages that told us what…
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Dating-Marriage vs. Courtship-Marriage.
Here’s the truth nobody talks about: A “dating-marriage” and a “courtship-marriage” are NOT the same. A dating-marriage is what happens when two people jump from the dating phase straight into marriage without really taking time to understand how they communicate, solve problems, or handle pressure together. This type of marriage often struggles because the foundation…
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Part one. Why Spiritually Open Men Attract Chaotic Women: Understanding Energetic Porosity.

Some men are spiritually gifted without ever realizing it. They feel deeply, absorb energy easily, and carry a natural sensitivity that most people don’t possess. But here’s the hidden truth: When a man is spiritually open but not energetically protected, he becomes a magnet for the wounded, the chaotic, and the unhealed. He’s simply open…
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We Learned Love the Wrong Way: The Hidden Cost of Generational Conditioning.
I was inspired to write this post after seeing a comment online that said, Trad wives have made it easy for men to stay mediocre. We often talk about “healing” and “breaking cycles,” but what does that really mean? For many of us, both men and women it means waking up one day and realizing…
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Why Self-Actualized Women Struggle to Find Compatible Men
Today’s blog post dives into the concept of self-actualization, inspired by a post I came across about the highest level on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs where a woman stands firmly at the top of her own pyramid. When she’s centered financially, emotionally, and spiritually, her outlook transforms, and so do the kinds of men she…